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Got a question from Sakura ......
This is our reply.......
Hi Sakura, thanks for contacting q2a again.
The only way to confirm whether he likes you or not is to ask him straight out! But we
guess that would be hard for you to do so you'll perhaps have to rely on noticing how he
behaves when he sees you:
· Does he look genuinely pleased when he sees you?
· Does he look like he wants to speak to you?
· Does he maintain lots of eye contact?
· Does he look back over his shoulder at you as he passes?
If you are unable to speak to him because of some school tradition that 8th graders can't
talk to students who are senior to them, and you live far apart, you might want to think
about whether it's worthwhile spending a lot of time thinking about him. But if you're
determined you could try to make contact with him in other ways, for example see if he's
on any of the social networking sites e.g. Bebo, MySpace, Facebook and become a
'friend', or see if he's on Twitter and Tweet him. But there'll still be the same problems of
getting to talk to him at school and living far apart.
It's common for people to get a crush on someone who is, for whatever reason,
unavailable. Crushes can be a way of 'practising' relationships by learning to cope with
emotions, and imagining what it would be like with the other person, but they aren't real
relationships. You may have more success finding that special someone among your own
year group, or network of friends. This is where most people make their significant
relationships. We don't know why you've broken with your boyfriend but perhaps he's
sensed that your thoughts are elsewhere and he's not getting your full attention. Crushes
can be damaging to other relationships if they get too intense.
We guess you're about 13 or 14 years old and going through puberty. You'll be
experiencing lots of feelings and emotions for the first time and it can be very difficult to
cope with! But it will get easier as you get older.
If you have access to the Internet have a look at:
www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/relationships_all/f
ancy_does_he_she_fancy_you_back/>
www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/relationships_all/c
rushes_unrequited_love/>
www.teenissues.co.uk/CopingWithACrush.html
www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/relationships_all/fi
nding_a_girlfriend_boyfriend/>
www.channel4.com/health/microsites/09/4health/teenlife/rel_chatting.html
We hope you find what we've said in our reply helpful. Please email us again if you think
we can help, about this or anything else.
Best wishes from q2a.
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