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Boy Troubles asks...
Hi!
When i was in year 6 a boy in year 4 confessed his love to me in a love note. It was kinda
awarkard cause he was younger and i dint think it was right for some reason. It seems
silly now. A relative works at this school as a helper and she looks after me when my
school finishes and hers isnt so i go and help out with the little kids. The guy has just left
year 6 this year but while he was in year 6 i fell for him and i cannot stop thinking bout
him. He isnt going to the same school as me but i know a friend who is in the school
which he is going to. I have the guys hotmail address so i could talk to him that way but
another source told me he isnt reli on it anymore. I reli like him and im asking for your
advice to help me. He also still teases me like he did wen he liked me so there could me
something there?
I'd like to thank you in advance for the advice you give me as a friend recommended your
service. I think you will give me excellent advice
What we suggest...
Hi Boy Troubles, thanks for contacting q2a, and for your kind remarks about our service!
We're not sure how often you see this boy, but we think it would be a shame to lose
contact with him altogether when you've known each other so long. It's a pity he's not
coming to your school as this would give you more chance to be in his company and get
to know how he really feels about you. But here are our suggestions which we hope you will
find useful.
We think if he's still teasing you, you've got as good a chance as anyone else - as long as
it's good-natured and not cruel! You can usually only get away with teasing people who
you feel relaxed and comfortable with, so we assume he feels like this when he's with you.
Take notice if whether he makes lots of eye contact, smiles at you, and talks to you a lot
because these are all positive signs. If you feel confident enough you could ask him
yourself whether he likes you and would like to go out with you. It's ok for girls to make
the first move because boys can be a bit embarrassed or shy.
If you don't see him very often, here's what you can try yourself:
- you could try to contact him on Hotmail; we don't mean to discredit your source
but it might just be wrong information
- you could see if he's on Facebook, MySpace, Bebo etc. and contact him through
here
- you could put your own profile on these sites and see if he contacts you
- get a conversation going with his relative next time you're helping her; you could
ask her which would be the best way to contact him, and what he's up to now e.g.
whether he's got a girlfriend, where he hangs out etc.
- you could ask his friend the same kind of questions
Be prepared in case it doesn't work out. People's feelings can change as you've realised
yourself; you weren't interested when he was, and now he may no longer be interested
when you are. Don't take it too personally if he's not; he may already be in a relationship,
or he may not want a relationship just now. Or he may just not fancy you enough but
would like to stay friends. This isn't your fault: everyone has their own personal likes and
dislikes, and these can be about people as well as other things like music, clothes etc. If
you think about it, there'll be people that you don't like, or have nothing much in common
with, and boys you don't fancy. You'll have to think about how you cope with this e.g. you
may decide to put it (and him) behind you and concentrate on the friends you've got at
your own school.
If you'd like to find out more here's where to go:
Book:
How Sex Works by Elizabeth Fenwick & Richard Walker, pub. Dorling Kindersley.
There's a lot about relationships in here as well. Your local library may have a copy you
can borrow, or you can buy it from good bookshops.
Websites:
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/singles
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/onelife/personal/index.shtml?relationships#topics
We hope you find what we've said in our reply u helpful, and things work out as you want
them to. Please email us again if you need to, about this or anything else.
Good luck and best wishes from q2a.
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