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who can help me? I feel angry all the time..

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Everyone gets angry sometimes. Anger is a normal emotion, and there's nothing wrong with feeling mad. What counts is how we handle it when we're angry and look at what causes it. It takes plenty of self-awareness and self-control to manage angry feelings.   These skills take time to develop. Everyone can change - but only when they want to.

1) Identify the problem (self-awareness). Start by noticing what you're angry about and why. Put into words what's making you upset so you can act rather than react.

2) Think of potential solutions before responding (self-control). This is where you stop for a minute to give yourself time to manage your anger. It's also where you start thinking of how you might react - but without reacting yet.

3) Consider the consequences of each solution (think it through). This is where you think about what is likely to result from each of the different reactions you came up with.

4) Make a decision (pick one of your options). This is where you take action by choosing one of the solutions above you could do with the most effective result.

5) Check your progress. After you've acted and the situation is over, spend some time thinking about how it went. Other Ways you could Manage Anger are:

# Exercise- Go for a walk/run, work out, or go play a sport. Lots of research has shown that exercise is a great way to improve your mood and decrease negative feelings.
# Listen to music (with your headphones on). Music has also been shown to change a person's mood pretty quickly.
# Write down your thoughts and emotions - writing down your thoughts and feelings can improve how you feel.
# Meditate or practice deep breathing - This one works best if you do it regularly, as it's more of an overall stress management technique that can help you use self-control when you're mad.
# Distract yourself - If you find yourself stewing about something and just can't seem to let go, it can help to do something that will get your mind past what's bugging you - watch TV, read, or go to the movies.

Sometimes anger is a sign that more is going on. Tell your parents, a teacher, a counsellor, or another adult you trust if anything has been happening:

# You have a lasting feeling of anger over things that have either happened to you in the past or are going on now.
# You feel irritable, grumpy, or in a bad mood more often than not.

# You feel consistent anger or rage at yourself.
# You feel anger that lasts for days or makes you want to hurt yourself or someone else.
# You're often getting into fights or arguments.

Anger is a strong emotion. It can feel overwhelming at times. Learning how to deal with strong emotions - without losing control - is part of becoming more mature. It takes a little effort, a little practice, and a little patience, but you can get there if you want to.

There is more about anger on the following websites:

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Anger-management/Pages/Introduction.aspx
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/emotional_health/mental_health

If you're still struggling with your feelings after trying what we've suggested above you can do to see your GP who may be able to refer you to an anger management course or for counselling.

We hope this information has helps.

Best wishes from q2a

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