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my mum and my step dad had a massive argument the other week and he ended getting
taken away by the police and im left feeling down about it what can i do?

This is our reply.......

Hi helping haiti @ I need help im.upset.com, thanks for contacting q2a.

We are sorry to hear about what's been happening at home. It's natural to feel upset when
family members have arguments, especially if the police become involved. And it will be
more worrying for you if you've already been through one family break-up.

These are some of the things we guess you might be worrying about:

· is your step dad coming back or not?
· if he does come back will the same thing happen again?
· if he doesn't and you had a good relationship with him will you still be able to see
him?
· do you feel that it's your fault because you've done something wrong? (You almost
certainly haven't)
· will you have to move house - again? Or school - again?

The first thing we suggest is that you talk your Mum about these issues. Very often
parents can become so stressed out with their own problems that they don't realise how
upsetting it is for other people in the house. Also some parents think that their arguments
are nothing to do with their children and don't tell them what's going on. So pick a time
when it's relatively quiet e.g. perhaps in an evening and ask her if you can have a talk
about what's happened, what might happen in the future. If you have brothers or sisters
involve them as well.

You may be feeling as though you've no control over what's happening so it's important to
carry on with your own life as much as you can. Focus on your school work and see your
friends as often as you can. Talk to your friends about what's happened - someone else
may have been in the same, or a similar situation. Here are some other people to talk to
and organisations you can get support from:

· The Bridge, 36-38 Duke Street, Doncaster. Telephone 01302 734704. Drop-in
sessions Monday 10am-3pm, Tuesday 12noon-4.30pm, Wednesday 2pm-4pm, Friday
10am-4.30pm, Saturday 10am-2pm. You don't need an appointment and you can
telephone at these times as well
· A teacher at school, perhaps one who you get on with
· Childline, freephone 0800 11 11, website:
<http://www.childline.org.uk/Explore/HomeFamilies/Pages/FamilyRelationships.aspx>
· Youthline, freephone 0800 096 1425, open Monday-Thursday 4pm-10pm, Friday
4pm-7pm
· <http://www.teenissues.co.uk/DealingWithDivorceAndSeperation.html>

We hope you find what we've said in our reply helpful and you can find support for your
situation. Please email us again if you think we can help, about this or anything else.
Take care.

Best wishes from q2a.

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